ah i’m not sure i’m comfortable with the use of “sociopath” here—other than the issues with ascribing a broad swath of behavior to a specific mental condition, it is the unfortunate fact that a lot of people are not trained to communicate well during sex or know how to express desires because of our entrenched rape culture. murky situations are in fact pretty common! which is terrible. which is why i’d also hesitate to uh, make any kind of assumptions about the sexual experiences of the other person in this argument—these are widespread and damaging beliefs that are very dearly held at the core of our society! experience doesn’t necessarily fix that, education does.
the rest, however, i will agree with. it’s been an upsetting conversation.